Soft Life Or Just Avoiding Real Life?

Social media sells us a magical "soft life" full of relaxation, luxury, ease, boundaries, and the perfect husband. How many people are really living that life? How many are just putting on the mask of perfection, while really just avoiding real life? How can you build that life and sustain it?

Asking the real questions today. Always growing!

Transcript

Patrice B: 0:40

Hey y'all. Welcome back to tacos, tequila Therapy in the teeth. The podcast will be, tell the truth, take the shots, and do the work. I'm your host, Patrice B, and have I got something for y'all today? Today's question that has popped up in this Patrice brain of mine is soft life or just avoiding real life. We gonna let that sit right there because we about to dig into your shit and probably mine too.'cause it's been on my mind and I'm just out here to share. And today this one was kind of like woo. So I had to get me a little goose and cranberry for you. And the only thing I do like pink is my drink. Not too much cranberry. I don't want it to be red. I need it to be pink. While we out here talk about this soft life. Because the reality of it is we out here with the goose and growth'cause I'm gonna be drinking and growing. I just need y'all to know that. But what does the soft life really mean? It's marketed with like ease, luxury boundaries with silky robes, lace fronts, clean homes, and the most ideal husband. I hope I sound like a commercial'cause that's how the hell IG and TikTok be out here giving it to you. They'll make you think that this is the soft life. You got your dusting powders, you got your skincare, your workout routine. The most ideal wife, husband, bringing in flowers and putting them on the the island every day. But really is that sustainable? But we haven't done it in a work. Are we really, really, really living that life or just posting about it? Because that right there is crazy and is it really fucking sustainable? Can we even stay in that? Is that something you gonna do all the time? Are we gonna always stay in a white glove service? Because what I realized, you know, we start out with white glove service in the beginning, those connections, and then after a while it falls old. But are we just dressing up? Avoidance masks and self care. cause we put on a mask real quick to show up for others, and I feel like some people are really out here using the soft life aesthetic to avoid doing the hard emotional work. Because sometimes you do have to check in with your damn self healing growth and your damn responsibilities. Some people are avoiding that and so then the soft life becomes code for, I don't wanna do it. I don't wanna deal with that shit today. And yes, I've been there. I have been there. I don't wanna do it. Clock me out. I'm the queen of freaking procrastination and calling it self kid. Because I will go, go, go, and then I stop, and I'm just tired of being responsible. So I'm gonna call it the soft life. I'm gonna call it self care. I'm gonna do whatever. But we get into this soft life that we're trying to achieve without doing the work behind it so that we can actually sustain it. Coming from being in survival mode since I was 14 when my mom passed away, I only know survival. So for a long time I thought that, you know, soft life was weak. And what I realized is that it doesn't mean weak, it means aligned to me. Here's what I've learned. A healthy soft life is earned. You just don't declare it. You do the work, the right kind of work to sustain truly a soft life. When you are aligned with your purpose, your peace, and your truth, it means showing up for yourself with grace and intention, not excuses. Creating space, not avoiding reality is truly a healthy, soft life. You wanna solve life, cool. Then you gotta be willing to have those hard ass conversations, not just with yourself, but with others as well, to truly heal yourself. That's what a long-term peace comes in at, that sustainable, soft life. I just want y'all to be able to shoot, make peace your default, not your escape. Stop calling, numbing and hiding self-care. Let's be real. You gotta be able to deal with your shit. You just can't stop. Be aware, be intentional, and when you are constantly in that space of owning your peace, being responsible and doing that real inner work, that's where I believe our soft life is sustained. I want you to think about are you truly creating peace? Are you just running from your discomfort in the next few days, weeks, months? Ask yourself, am I avoiding growth in the name of peace or am I building a life that feels soft because I've actually earned it and healed for it? Be honest with yourself. You deserve a soft life, but it should be healthy and it should be grounded in the truth, your truth. Take time. Write it down. You know I'm famous for one to write something down.'cause once you get it out your head, you write it down, you release it, you receive it in a different way. I hope this helps somebody to really think about that soft life that we claim we want, and don't know how to sustain it and do the work. And as always, thank you for spending your time and your energy with me today. I don't take it lightly at all. Thanks for letting me pour into you just for a little while, and hope you pour back into yourself too. Until next time, stay growing, stay real and stay unapologetic. Cheers.