New Season Of You

Today I'll reflect on the year 2024 and discuss the rapid passage of time, personal growth, and life lessons learned. I'll delve into my experiences with relationships, accountability, and the importance of self-reflection. On my journey of self-improvement, I've heard from people from my past that have made me think about how I handle myself and how I affect the people around me. As I look forward to 2025, there's huge value in living in the moment, appreciating where one has been, and being selective about who to share one's energy with. 

Tune in for an insightful conversation on growth, gratitude, and the excitement of new beginnings.

Transcript

Patrice B: 0:41

Welcome back to the randomest podcast ever. Can y'all believe that we are almost at the end of 2024? It is crazy. I cannot believe it. It went by so fast. I don't know for y'all, but it definitely has flew. It flew by. I felt like it was September, November, and now we saying Merry Christmas, Happy New Year. And This entire year has been a test of my damn patience. I would have to say like as I reflect back on a year, like the lessons, all the things that I've been sharing with you guys, some of it is on the spot. Some of it is just like, Hey, later past. But what I realized that this year was definitely a year of reflection. As I reflect on the year that I've had throughout this year, I've shared so many different lessons with you guys. But just reflecting on who am I, what is it that I want? Who is it that I want? And it's just been all like in the moment sharing with you guys. Some is my story. Some isn't, but it also makes me aware. Like when you talk to someone else and you're having that conversation about life, right? Everybody has like a different perspective and it is so enlightening as to the viewpoint as to which they view life, how they see it. And it could just be based on past trauma, whatever. it has just been an interesting time, be it the relationships, friendships, workships, whatever that is. I have been like, wow, perspective. You learn something new every day. And I have been having to reflect on this season of Patrice. And the reflection is, is where you've been and where you're going. And in these spaces of like, Hey, where you been? How did that go? How did that affect you? But more so, how does where you've been get you to where you're going? And, I have to say, y'all, we just have to, we definitely have to take accountability of our own shit for us to grow and be better. That is a fact. We must do that. Some people hold on to things for a really long time. I just had a situation this weekend where someone told me that they had looked up to me in middle school because I seemed to be a person who knew who they were back then. And I apparently impacted her life in a way where she admired me, but also her encounter with me said I was kind of sassy. Um, and I showed a mean girl. And what's so funny is that I'm like, dang, in middle school, perspective is everything, right? And she is entitled to the way that she feels. But when we are even thinking about our encounter with someone else, it's always more than just us. It is beyond us. At that time of all the things that she said, like she had no clue, like in my life, what could have been going on, like what my response was or no response to her could have just been a direct reflection of my life. Not necessarily anything towards her. She doesn't really know me and none of these encounters I remember right now. but she's clearly held onto that for probably 30 years. That's a long time. But in this moment of now and being in a space where she is in a closer proximity and can see me as the person that I am and some of the things that she said even me of touching her hair to try to figure out what was going on with it. If it was like all hers or whatever. I'm still that person. I'm still just that damn random. I am so random. Like, what I'm thinking I might say, or it's on my face, I may act on it. I've always been like this super creative person who was just always in her own world. but I do take accountability, for when I fuck up. When I was like, Hey, that was me. I could have did something different. Um, and sometimes in the fuck up and my reflection of my year, like when Patrice is Patrice and cause y'all know I'm a verb yeah, I can make mistakes and the consequences are sometimes you still have to pay for them. You may lose that friendship. You may lose the connection and I will take that ill and be like lesson learned. But also in my reflection, it also made me think about the leaps of faith. That we have to take and believing in ourselves and taking the next steps and going into the new era of you or whatever that is and reflecting to know, like, hey, everything of where you've been and the lessons that you learned are going to help you for your next stages. You took accountability, you learned your lessons and how do you apply that going forward? You never know whose lives you impact or some people don't even realize how they can impact your life. And the simplest way my lessons, all of my lessons has gotten me to where I am today. Every last one. I'm telling you, y'all be like, Whoa, wait a minute. And I be trying to go into my shell and be like, let me just not come outside a little bit. I don't want to talk to the people. Hey, you stay over there. I'm gonna stay over here. Especially when it comes to dating. I feel like the new question that people ask, cause this is the random, isn't it? I've been asked so many times in the last like few months, Hey, are you single? And they asked with such curiosity, like, are you? Why is that? And before I may not have had an answer, but I can tell you that I am single because I am choosing to reserve this energy that I have for someone who can handle it, someone who can appreciate it. As I am appreciating and embracing every bit of this black girl joy that I have right now, this peace, sanity, and balance that I've begun to create. I possess and I am enjoying. I'm just selective about who I share it with because I realize that this energy is, it can be a lot, but not everybody can handle that energy. And my reflection, I have to be very careful as to who you share that with. And so why are you single? Because everybody can't have it. They may want it, but can they have it? Can they handle it? No. Sometimes I can't even handle the shit of Patrice, but we are here. But in my reflection of like, dang, why are you single? Because hey, I'm shining bright. Hey, I'm happy in life. Hey, positive Patty is in the forefront and not penitentiary and petty. Because I'm positive and passionate about life. I love it. And I exude that out. And so it draws sometimes the wrong people in. So why am I single? Because I don't want the bad people close. But am I open to meeting people? Sure. And I meet them. Some last, some don't. I don't mind meeting people. I'm not blocking the energy. I'm just not very, um, open. I just have to be aware of who I share all of the goodness with. But that question has come up a whole lot lately. Like you're going by yourself, you're doing it by yourself. But in my time of reflection, I realized that as I grow, it's better to have people to do it with, like work. For instance, in the salon, I've reflected on, hey, for me to go to newer heights. We need some good energy and some other people in the space. Because we can. We should. It makes life easier when it's with others, especially those that have that, that good energy and spirits that you want around you. And so everything doesn't have to be done alone. It doesn't have to be. By yourself. You don't have to be by yourself and everything. And my reflection of this single life. So who knows what 2025 may bring in this single girl world of mine. But, I'm excited about the new journey. I'm excited to take the steps going forward, in this season of reflection, I am grateful for where I've been because y'all, shit, has prepared me for where I'm about to go. And I hope in your reflection, you can appreciate where you've been so that you can get to the next steps. Go to the next level. Since my birthday, if I could say anything, I am enjoying the moment of now. I told y'all that last time, like I ain't worried about too much in the future. I ain't worried too much in the past. I am in the now. appreciating today. Today is a good day. I'm going to enjoy today. Because I can see where I'm going, but I'm not focused on where I'm going. I'm focused more on where I am. And I can't believe it. We almost done. But as always y'all we are here and Whew, it's exciting. New things are coming. It's going to be amazing. I'm back with more Patrisse randomness 2025. I'm probably past the healing stage in 2025. Y'all probably go to the level of like breakout, but who knows where we'll be. But as always, I appreciate you. And thank you. Thank you. Thank you for always spending your time with me. I'm grateful. Until next time.