Words Have Power

Words carry significant meaning. Whether in conversations with others, business arrangements, or speaking to yourself, language is important. The words you use can cause misunderstandings, convey emotions, and show others who you really are. When someone tells you who they are, you'd best believe them!

Be mindful of your language, celebrate your achievements and adopt empowering language to foster personal growth and resilience.

Transcript

Patrice B: 0:42

Welcome back guys. How are ya? I am back again on the Tea with P on this Tacos Tequila Therapy and the Tea with P. But today I just want to give you a little bit more therapy in this sharing, in this journey of being healed and healing and these discoveries of human behaviors. Right? And so, I have really just been, and I've been telling y'all this, that I've been just trying to be aware of my shit, right? Of Patrice Patricin, when I'm a, I'm a verb, when I'm doing what I do, whatever that might be in that moment. But in the last couple of weeks, I've been just discovering, and it's not just discovering, but you're making the connection, right? To words mean things. And when we talk about words meaning things, I believe these are conversations that we have with others. You know, words in a contract, words to yourself and how you speak to yourself. Right? So I'm definitely a big person. I read the damn fine print. Sometimes we got to read between the lines with people, fine print on a contract. Shit, you better read the fine print at a restaurant because I'm telling you these little things that they will get you. They will get you. I went to a, a gathering and it was at a crap spot and you just never know like words mean things. So I am not a fan of a boil. I do not want everything thrown in a bag. Like let me experience my little seafood. Give me a little flavor. And I want to experience them separately. And I asked the lady like, Hey, is this considered a boil? Am I able to do all you can eat? Because the event was all you can eat without. It being a boil. Is this a boil? She goes, no. it was what I said. I said, I'm not really a fan of the boils in the bag. That's what I said. And the lady, I was like, so is this a boil? And she goes, no. And she answered no, because honestly, it ain't a damn boil in a bag. It was a boil, but in a tray. It wasn't in a bag. So she answered no. So this new lesson for me is that words mean things. What are you saying? When we're asking questions or we're making statements, what does it say? Because words mean things. And we think about this in a sense of like when someone is expressing their feelings to you and they're expressing love. does it always align with what they're saying? Right? Does the love align with the love that the, the love that they show? Does it align with the words that they express? And so when I am thinking about words meaning things, it's like, what are you saying? Are you saying this out of formality? Um, is it just an answer to a part of the question? Like, what are we doing? So words mean things. But in one of my recent discoveries, it's just not how others govern themselves in conversations or how we read contracts and what those words mean. But it's how I'm having conversations with myself and what do they mean. So in life, I've had some experiences from a teenager now to adulthood. We all have, but for me it's really taking account of where I've been and where I'm going is my new journey of where I have been out here in this thing called life and I used to say. I've been through a lot. I've been through so much. And I mean, the fact of the matter is that, yeah, we all have, and this is what I'm saying to you is that I am not diminishing anyone's, journey, whatever that might be. I'm not measuring difficulty. There's no measurement here. But sometimes it's how we look at our adversity. And my discovery is that I need to change it. How look at the things that I've been through. While I'm aware of them. And I'm becoming more aware and I'm acknowledging it, but instead of, wearing the past as a badge of what you've been through and the things that have happened and the different things in life where it wasn't may not have been so great. It's changing my verbiage on how I view it. Because words mean things. Instead of saying I've been through something, I've came through a lot because I'm going to tell you something. This shit is a success story. I had to reflect and I had to do, an accolades list. I felt like I needed to accept my award and I had to go through and think about, girl, where have you been? In his journey. And I really had to process and change my verbiage on how I view. The different things that I had, quote unquote, been through. Nah sis, you came through that shit because look at where you are now. And when I came through, I came through at peace. On top. I am not hardened by what I have experienced. But when I say what I've been through, it seems like I'm carrying it with me instead of I came through and I'm on the other side of that because the person I was then is damn sure not the person that I am now. And I'm going to tell you, I'm, I was the one who didn't always celebrate my wins and give myself my flowers because I didn't think I had to. I'd be like, I been there, done that. And I move on to the next thing that I need to accomplish because I'm always moving forward. There's always an elevation for me. I learn from everything and everyone. And I'm definitely aware, like I told y'all before, and I will tell y'all each and every time I'm aware of my shit, but are we always aware of our shit? And so the more and more I become aware of my shit, the people around me, I got to make the, you know what I'm saying? I don't, I don't have to, but I'm aware of what I'm listening to and what I'm not going to allow my friends to speak into themselves. Right? Now, sis, be aware of your shit and I had to say this to a friend because when I tell you I got one friend that will stand ten toes down in her mouth like a trauma, that shit is a motherfucking badge of honor. And note that if she hears this, I done told her this shit because we had these conversations often, right? But we were having a discussion just about moving her forward and she was damn sure they're going to tell me what she ain't going to do. And I'm gonna tell you, this was over the phone, I could tell you that since eyebrows was touching and shoulders was tight, I probably felt through the phone and shake cause she was moving that head like, and what? I ain't gonna do it, I ain't never gonna do it again. And I was like, of course you not. Because you ain't the same person. But what we cannot do is put energy into the words. Because they mean things and I cannot let you still continue to give power to what you've been through because you came through it and you ain't even the same person, but the amount of energy she put in what she wasn't going to do is not the same energy she puts into what she's going to do and what she can do will do and have done because she was staying in a space. that wasn't serving her. Now, my cousin, I'm telling y'all, she, she pointed this out and I, I think of it this way, but when I experienced something, let's say it's a relationship and this death, this conversation was definitely in the sense of a relationship, um, or connection, I'm gonna call them connections. If I have a connection with someone and it ends, My life is not over. I'm definitely moving the fuck on. Right now, the people that, you know, for whatever reason it ended, whether they like me at the moment, I like them. It doesn't even matter because in that space, we done life has not ended. I do believe that God said, Hey, since that wasn't the last one, that wasn't the only one it's time to get back out on the horse. It's not time to stop because this one person, you know, ended with this one person, life must go on. What did you get from it? And I usually try to learn my lessons in the moment of reflection of, Hey, what could I have done differently? What am I taking away from this? And I do reflect on the good times. What was good? What would I keep? And I moved Diva going. Cause I don't know why people think out here that you supposed to stop cause they left. I don't care if they pause their life for 20 years. I'm going to move the fuck on because we have parted ways and that's not where my life should end. But she said that it was always the thing that I got back out on the horse and I kept going. But that wasn't just in relationships as I reflect on my journey. I keep moving because sometimes the words that I speak to myself is that this is not the end. this moment is a moment. It is not the day. It's not my life. It's a moment in life. And I can grow from this. I could be better than this. So when I say that words mean things, I want to say this, how you speak to yourself. is the most important part of words, meaning things. And for the most part, it takes us being accountable for ourselves in this process of the words, meaning things. I will not tell someone that I love them if I do not mean that wholeheartedly. And when I do, I'm in full Scorpio mode, believe me, I mean that shit. I got your back. I'm here for you. I love you. I'm all in, but I am a person if I'm out, I'm out and you don't get to experience that side, right? But I'm that way in work. I'm all in. But my word is my word, right? And I find that some people, you know, don't really pay attention to that words mean things. Even when they are speaking negatively to someone. you know what I mean? Are those people, oh gosh, those people who are sarcastically, belittling you, you can see it like, and they were like, huh, it's a joke. I should, I know joke. Stop playing with me and be aware. Cause sometimes you got to pop the kid for touching the damn socket immediately when they do it. Not five years later, not next week, catch him in the moment. So they know don't play with you. Because when you allow somebody's words to continue feeding you and especially in a negative light that they make a joke of, imagine what that does to someone's spirit and how they show up in the friendship or the relationship. You think they're going to show up as their best self when you keep putting them down in a joking manner? Or in a hurtful way because your intent is to keep them down? Words mean things. So when someone tells you something, pay attention. What is the fine print? Words mean things. What does that mean? What does that say? And don't pick up no bad habits from people that don't know how to talk to people. Words mean things when you are talking to yourself, when you are You know, in your moments of duress and you just don't know which way you're going to go. You don't know how you're going to do it. You're trying to plan your future, trying to forget your past. Be kinder to yourself. Those words that you speak to others and to yourself mean things. And those things affect your mentals and it affects how you perform in life and how you show up sometimes, how you view things. And we have to hear the people, not just listen, but hear the people. What are they saying? And my ears are open to words, meaning things. When somebody tells you something, I'm able to really take a glance at them and hear them fully of, Hey, that's not what they actually saying to me. Like the lady with the boil, even though I use the word bag, ah, this is a little off. It was definitely a goddamn boil. But the play on words, one, one damn thing can change the whole sentence. And for me, instead of talking about where I have, what I have been through and using the word come through feels so much, so much more motherfucking empowering. Cause I done came through some shit. Y'all and I'm celebrating like shit cause I'm like, whoa, look at where you are now. I'm Cause I got visions of where I'm going. So the conversation I have now and the words that I'm using now and how I speak life into myself and anybody around me matters. Because words mean things. They really do. Even though they are just words. It evokes an emotion. Shit, you can call somebody a bitch. And it can be how they say it. They do mean things in what context. Somebody can be pissed off. Somebody can be like, Hey friend, but they mean things. Who are they coming from? What is the context? What's the fine print? What's between the lines? Words mean things. Tone, how you say it, what you say. And shit, trust and believe sometimes it's the words that you don't say that speak so much more than the words that you do. So in my newfound journey of this healed and healing, love on yourself a little bit more. Be kinder to yourself. Give yourself flowers. For all of your accomplishments of what you have come through, not just what you've been through. Sometimes just write it down. You might need to write down at the end of the day, like three things of accomplishments for the day. Not what you didn't get through, but what you did just to remind yourself of who the fuck you are, because I'm sure you're absolutely amazing. Um, I believe that for you. I believe that for me. And there's always in my randomness with this podcast, you know, on the healed and healing journey. Y'all who knows what's going to be next time when I, what I'm going to be talking about when I come back to y'all, cause y'all y'all know I'll be random, but I appreciate you spending your time with me. As always, until next time.