Breaking Through the Meh

I've been feeling kind of meh. You too? I love my work and we have fun in the salon, but once I'm done, I start to feel overwhelmed with all the adulting, running my business, and overthinking about how I'm going to retire and the direction I want to go in my life.

I had to get rid of the things that were draining my energy and find ways to build it back up.  This is my challenge for you: reboot, relax, and refuel!

Transcript

Patrice B: 0:40

Welcome back to the most randomest podcast ever. I'm so happy to be here with you guys again today. I have been in this space of just going, going, going, going so much that if you asked me what my mood was, I would be like, it's meh. I go in the salon, it's amazing, and when I'm in there, like, I absolutely, I'ma tell you guys when I'm in the salon, I love what I do. But I realize being, as busy in the salon, out of the salon, just all of life responsibilities cause you know, adulting, that hood is always so ghetto. You can just feel overwhelmed. I'm trying to plan my whole future. You guys, and I am trying to plan it in a week. I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to retire, get old, stay young, raise the kids, run a business, start about four more businesses and needs to happen now. And you know, I know, I know, I know, I know. It is all really just me overthinking, doing too much, not letting life take its time. But truth of the matter is I've been feeling meh. And so I had to get back to finding what was the drainers. of my energy. What was I doing to myself in this space? Right? And then what do you do to fix it? Well, lovely thing, this weekend is that I actually got out. I was like, I'm going to get out of this house. I am not going to be like bogged down with work and all the extra things, but I did go to the hair show and I wasn't going to go. I was like, you know what? I know you plan to go to this back in November, but today's the day and I don't really feel like I want to go. Like, especially when the day comes and you know how you just don't have the energy to do it. But I was so, so glad that I got out and I did that. Because it had just allowed me to do a nice little reset. I got to see some very creative and beautiful people because I love what I do. But sometimes like I am in the salon and I'm sure I am when I tell you, I even talked to some of my colleagues in the industry, solopreneurs where you are everything to the business. It can be rather daunting at times. Somebody needs to move appointment, change appointment, up, down. It's like a game of checkers and chess and your brain can be burnt out because you're trying to figure out the color formulas and where you could place the people and what's the best time because everybody moving around like a chess piece. But it was so nice to just take a moment to reset and I have gone back to And then I shouldn't say I've gone back to, because it's not like I've never really stopped, but I have been more focused in my meditation to try to start the days out better. And I'm going to tell you this, when I'm in the salon, we have fun. I have fun. But when I leave, I'm like, meh, we're back to what is the rest of my life going to look like outside of there. And it was just one of those things where you're just like, what in the world are you doing? And I had to find those things that would refuel your spirit, refuel my spirit, I should say. And I know a lot of people are like, you know, in that space these days is so much going on around us between social media, the news, and that stuff can be a drainer to you as well. And you don't even realize it. Some of us are in our day to days and We just are like functioning. The things that I have found to just refuel, reboot, is really just getting out. Getting out and doing the things you love. Everything doesn't have to have a, High ticket to it doesn't always have to be a vacation, but sometimes getting out and socializing in the spaces where you love. And doing the things that you love can just give you a little extra boost, right? And I'm like, Oh, it felt so good. Other things that I try to do is I, I try to create like a spa day for me as spa day may be at home in a bathtub, but I create a whole mood. I will have some candles and some wine. It gets serious or I just try to take that moment to just step out. Can I go and get a service? Can I go and get a massage? What does budget look like today? Can we do that timing? What does it look like? But taking those moments of reflection and being still helps to just reset, reboot, get proper rest. Now I probably got more rest, even though it has been very busy, I've been very intentional with it. Just take your tail to sleep, girl. All that ain't even necessary. The Instagram, the TikToks, all of that, like, just let it be, but just taking those moments because being a solopreneur is a lot. Being a mom, a dad, carting the kids around, working with their schedules, shoot, sometimes just your job in itself, half of you guys now work from home and You're like working on the weekends you work later than the normal hours that did But when you went into your job and I was hours along and we just have to have those moments of escape in the day And this week, I hope you guys treat yourself to something. I know I was taking you guys back into the salon, but what I really would like for you to do is I want you to refuel, reboot, and just relax. What was that back on? Um, Was it a different world when we used to be like, relax, relate, release? That's what I want for you guys. It's a new month. We are ending out the first quarter. Can we relax, relate, and release? So that we can see what's coming. What is it we are to do next? And next meaning tomorrow. Not 25 years from now. Not December of 2024. But just getting a grip on the now. And breaking through your meh, the dash. What are we doing with that time? And I just had to share that with you guys because I hope that you refuel, reboot, and relax. Take your time, all the time that you need. Take those moments for you. It's needed and as always, I appreciate you guys for taking your time and spending it with me. I know you got options and you got other things to do, but you chose to spend it with me and I appreciate you. Thank you. And don't forget, reboot, relax, and refuel.